LIKES AND DISLIKES ABOUT SWINGING

Many couples are attracted to a swinging lifestyle for various reasons.Some find that having sex with other people/couples to be very arousing andalso finds that swinging improves their own sex lives and relationship with their partner. Other reasons may include:

Making new friendships.

Appreciation to the open-mindedness and pleasure that swinging can bring.

Allow to explore your potential bisexuality.

To be able to have sexual relationships with others without the feeling of guilt from cheating.

A lifestyle to discover your sexual needs and wants.

Learning about you sexuality.

Allow couples the opportunity to learn to relax and appreciate sexual pleasure.

Helps couples to view sex as source of pleasure and intimacy and less as a social bargaining chip or ego boost.

Learn to accept that others have a variety of body types, sizes, age and shapes.

Able to provided an opportunity to dress up sexily and then go completely nude at parties and events which can provide fun and a sensual experience in and of itself.

Swinger Activities.....

Swinging activities can include (but are not limited to):

Exhibitionism: having sex with a partner while being watched.

Voyeurism: watching others have sex (perhaps with the above mentioned partner).

Soft Swinging or Soft Swap: kissing, stroking, or having oral sex with a third or fourth person. This may be in the form of a threesome or group sex, or partners may literally be swapped.

Full Swap: having penetrative sex with someone other than one's partner, which is the commonly understood definition of swinging (though not necessarily the most common type).

Group Sex: An all inclusive term for activities involving multiple partners in the same vicinity.
Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages with either another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual. These acts can occur in the same room (often called same room swinging) though different or separate room swinging does occur. Sex on these occasions is often referred to as play.

While the vast majority of swingers are heterosexual couples, a major part of Lifestyle activities are bisexual in nature. A large portion of female swingers, while they may or may not identify as bisexual, are interested in female-female sexual contact. Male-male contact is very rare, and usually never allowed in at a Swing Club/Party.

Meeting Couples....

We really enjoy meeting new couples. Like I’ve said before, even if we don’t “play” with them, we enjoy meeting other sexually open people. After we’ve chatted online, we like to meet in a public place first just to see if there is attraction amongst all parties involved. From there, we’re really open about what happens next. If we go straight to the sex, great! If we meet another time, that’s great too. For us, the whole swinging thing is just about everybody being comfortable and having fun! We’re not about gaining as many bedmate as possible… just getting together with like minded people for good times! thats all.......

Random Thoughts About Swinging ....

This may seem strange to non-swingers, but swinging has actually helped our relationship and brought us closer together. I can’t say there was anything wrong with our relationship to begin with, but swinging has brought us closer together. It’s something we enjoy doing together. We enjoy browsing profiles together, chatting with other couples together, meeting new people together, and of course fucking other couples together! The main idea here is it’s something we do together!

When we first started, I thought I might have problems watching Jay with another woman. Well, I was wrong! At some point or another during our first swap with another couple, I looked over and just watched him fucking the other woman. It wasn’t a turn off, it was a major turn on! Funny, but true. Watching his face and body while he fucked her from behind was just incredible.

It was during that first swap that I decided I wasn’t just bi-curious, I was definitely bisexual. I loved the whole experience of being with another woman… how she felt, how she kissed, and most definitely how she tasted. Licking pussy for the first time was a wonderful experience, just thinking about it makes me hot!

DRESSING UP FOR SWING PARTIES

One of the fun things about swinging is getting to dress up. Not dress up like in go to church or a wedding, more like dress up like a hooker or slut. Yes, this is your opportunity as a hardworking, mature, ordinary person to put on a top that is completely see through and shows the world your nipples.

Or perhaps a short mini skirt, the kind you would never wear outside in your regular life, and walk around the dance floor in high heels. Yup, you can do it at most swinger party and many do. In fact, I think it might be one of the things you must do to get a full appreciation of the party. I wouldn't dream of attending a swinger's party in jeans and a normal top. I usually wear as little as possible and whatever I have on is going to show off my assets. But of course we dressed casual first then change in the party.

Many swinger's groups have theme nights which can make choosing an outfit a little easier as you can wear something that goes with the theme.

The thing is, at swinger's parties you can dress up like anyone you want, or anything, from ordinary to risque to ahem, barely there, well malaysian folks, its true. So dig out your sexiest highest heels, your shortest mini skirt and your see through top, and get ready to party. Don't worry, if things go as you hope, you won't have your clothes on long anyway, Malaysia boleh....

JAY AND I...

Jay and I went out last night for a little drink, got home around midnight and crawled in bed.


After kissing me for a few minutes he started moving downtown if you know what I mean....and in no time he was at the intersection of sex and orgasm....I laid back on the bed and enjoyed a good 30 or 40 minutes of tender licking, caressing and kissing which started soooo nice and slow, building as he went until I was panting, moaning and groaning, knowing I was on the edge of a great orgasm.


When he took my clitoris between his lips, tenderly, and started to suck, it was too much for me. I went off, bucking my body against his face, my hands grabbed his head and held him there while I climax. Loud. I am a screamer. Oh yes, there is nothing quiet about me when I cum and no question that I came. I know some girls who just moan a little or maybe make a quick little sound, but not me, I yell at the top of my lungs, always have and always will I guess. It is one of the things that really got Jay 's attention when we first started dating in college. Last night was no exception. I screamed and screamed again. Wonderful. It was a good orgasm too, not one of those little ones that is over quick, this one was powerful. It took me hard and I loved it.

After I had calmed down a bit, he pulled me over to the edge of our bed so he could stand up to fuck me. I opened my legs and he slide inside, his cock stretching my pussy which still wet from the orgasm. Then he started pumping, and pumping. Man, he fucked me hard, and lasted a long time, I assume because of the JD he had been drinking. Slowed him up some but didn't affect his hard cock which was pounding me. I was groaning and crying out and I think he thought that I was cumming or enjoying it, but the reality is, I was getting an awful pounding, almost too much, I think I like it better when he is a little more gentle.

But that wasn't his style last night, he was all about giving it to me hard and fast. Sometimes I think he mis-interpretes the sounds I make, because there is little difference between cumming sounds and the sounds I make when I am getting pounded. I know from our swinging experiences that some guys think I am cumming over and over again...but in reality I am screaming because they are stretching my little 29 year old cunny. He had my legs over his shoulders for a little while, then on the bed, then raised in the air.

My pussy was throbbing, the bed was creaking and I was opening and closing my eyes, taking it. When I closed my eyes I could hear the slapping noise of his body hitting mine, and I could feel his balls slapping against my bum. We were supposed to meet a couple last night for a drink and then well, who knows, but they didn't show, so I think my darling husband was trying to make up for it, fuck me like he was two men and a girl.

It was working. I don't know how long he lasted but I had to start talking pretty dirty to get him to an orgasm. I always pull that out of my back pocket when I need to, knowing that can often be enough to get him over the edge,hehehe. That and rolling over doggie style, but my knee was too sore for that, so I stayed put, on my back, legs open, my pussy open, taking him deep inside of me. He was stretching me open, and on some thrusts rotating his cock, making it feel even bigger than it is, oh my....my breasts were flopping around...

He is so handsome, his features seem to hide his age which is same as mine, and when he is above me like he was last night, his expressions are wonderful. The look of pleasure and concentration, his mind focused on one thing, me. I like that...no I love that....the expressions of concentration and sex. I had cum so hard from his tongue that there was no way I was going to cum again, I knew that, so it was all about letting him have me. It wasn't really what girls would call making love, it was sex, and I am ok with that. The licking was making love, it was gentle when it needed to be, and harder when I needed it harder. This was fucking. Pure and simple. When he came he groaned,flip me back and shot his cum on my butt.

Afterwards we wiped and crawled under the blanket and were both sound asleep in minutes. This morning my little pussy is a little tender, not bad, but a little....I might need some more licking to make it feel better. Any committed couples who is into swinging up for the job?????

HOLIDAYS..

We played this weekend with old friends. Actually, it was really nice seeing them. I have been thinking a lot lately about where I am in my life and what things I want to stay the same or change.

I think swinging has helped me to start "thinking outside the box." What if we had this thing called "ethical nonmonogamy?" What if I didn't have to live a "standard life" constricted by society's rules? What kind of person would I be? What kind of person am I?

I am finding out so many things about myself. I don't like extended sex sessions- it's about quality not quantity. I love oral, giving and receiving (I had wonderful oral this weekend...thank you thank you, OLD FRIENDS). I like being in shape. I love men who smell nice. I love men who are wild and confident. I love being the centre of attention. I love boyshorts but look horrible in them sometimes. I want a flatter stomach, been eating alot lately, hehe. I hate always wearing my hair up but im too lazy to do anything with it. I think lip gloss is divine. I have given up wearing make-up except for lip gloss and the occasional body shimmer. I am falling in love with the colour pearl. Morning sex is not my favourite, at the moment.

I am actually a very private person- very few people truly get to know the true me. In other words, I am cautious and very tentative with friendships. Sometimes, I like having my way, other times I like to be challenged. I like people who can stand up to me when I am down...but I also adore those who know when to back down.

ANNOUNCEMENT!!!

SWINGING EXPERIENCE

Girls, have you ever had a man fucking you from behind while you suck your husband's cock?

Have you been knee deep in an orgasm only to look at the couple next to you and realize that man being ridden by another woman is you husband, and it's her husband who is bringing you to an orgasm?

Those are the kinds of things that can happen in swinging relationships. There is something absolutely wild about having sex with someone new while your partner is doing the same thing beside you. Having your pussy licked by another woman while you pull on her husband's cock, which is bigger than any you have ever had you fingers around, that is another experience.

Or settling down on top of a big hard cock while you husband watches,wild, of course you need to be a little wild in the first place to get into that type of situation.

Have you ever fantasized about dancing nude on a table in front of a room full of strangers?

What about getting fucked hard with an audience?

Having more than one partner at the same time?

Watching others have sex?

Dancing with a stranger while you are wearing nothing but a tiny panties in a room full of strangers, having him suck on your nipples while your hand caresses his hard cock?

What about meeting a guy for the first time, thinking how handsome he looks, fantasizing about sex with him, and before the evening is over, realizing he has given you three orgasms and is about to slide his hard cock inside of your throbbing wet pussy?

What about getting up on all fours and getting fucked from behind by a big strong stud few years younger than you while you husband watches?

Or going down on a new cock under a table in a crowded room?

Those are the types of things that can happen in the swinger lifestyle. They don't all happen all the time, but the possibilities are endless. Whatever your fantasy, the internet and swinging can help you to realize them. Perhaps the best thing for a stable long term marriage in today's world of temptations is swinging.

But it could hold more truth than folks might like to admit. Let's face it, marriages don't often last like they used to, the options are just too great, the freedom is just too beckoning these days. That's where swinging comes in, live you fantasies, enrich your sex life, and at the end of the day, go home with your wife or husband, not with others.........

NUDE ME

Jay took this picture of me a couple of months ago while we were on a short trip to Udon Thani with Vincent and Yvonne. . I don't post a lot of nude pics here mostly because I don't have too many and don't usually like the way I look in them, like pornstar only. Oh sure, occasionally we take one that I like and then I can't wait to get home and get it posted but most of the time not crazy about them. However, I feel like I have been deprive my readers lately, not giving them enough of me, so I figured tonight I should post a sexy nude pic.

BRAZILIAN WAX

If you haven't enjoyed a fully waxed pussy ala the Brazilian wax, you're missing out one of life's most wonderful pleasures. I've never quite been able to express the fascination with bare pussies, but all I know is that I love the look. Jay loves it.......

NISHA On Exhibitionism....

I'm an exhibitionist. I freely admit it. I enjoy wearing sexy clothes in public and around my home and I especially enjoy the admiring glances I get from men, and the sometimes weird looks I get from less open women. My friend Azhar once asked me, while we were on vacation in Pulau Tioman, "Nisha, do you always have to wear such erection producing attire?" My answer was, with a wicked smile, "Of course."

The shock value of exhibitionism excites me, as well as the idea of getting caught. My husband, of course, encourages me and buys me my most revealing outfits. I need little encouragement to wear miniskirts with revealing pantylines, see through tops, short dresses and short-shorts. I wear thongs to the beach and one of my favorite bikinis is almost completely sheer when it's wet.

In night clubs I like to wear classy but revealing outfits and watch the men wonder if they saw what they really think they saw.

BISEXUALITY from MY POINT OF VIEW

I have never given much thought to myself as a bisexual. In fact, I remember an occasion in which my husband was writing an ad for a swinger's magazine. When listing our descriptions, he described me as being bisexual. I immediately commented that, "I'm not bi." He laughed and said, "Think about it for a minute." I did and then I, too, began to laugh. What everyone perceives as bisexual, I simply saw as being "natural." Wah Lau.....

Bisexuality comes naturally, without thought, to most women. As small children, little girls constantly walk hand- in- hand or arm-in-arm with their girlfriends. As adults, most women still greet their girlfriends with hugs or hold hands in moments of excitement or sadness. It is only natural that these feelings and actions easily transition into the bedroom.

I'm very affectionate person who very much enjoys touching and hugging. Therefore, I feel that my affection and desire toward women is just part of my nature and "bisexual" is just a label. I am not aggressive toward other women. Although I won't hesitate to admire beautiful women or even to fantasize, I will not chase one down. I prefer my encounters with women to occur spontaneously and I find they usually do. For me being with a women happens naturally, just like my first bi experience, with a touch here and a caress there. I find this to be especially true when two couples are together.

Having a sexual encounter with a couple in which the female is bi is wonderful. It means I get to give and receive attention to and from everyone involved. I can touch and kiss without worrying about offending anyone. I feel that sharing myself, and not just my husband, with another women helps to establish a bond between us (the females) which enhances the friendship. Also, a threesome with another female and her partner, or with my husband is a delight itself. Any one of the three of us can be the center of attention and the recipient of sexual pleasures.

Do women make better lovers than men? Judging by the e-mail I've received, I believe there are many men and women who believe that a woman knows a another women's body better than a man does, and therefore women are better lovers. No offense meant to anyone, especially those ladies who prefer only women, but I personally disagree. Our sex is not what determines whether we are good lovers. It is the commitment, effort and communication we put forth in fulfilling the desires of our partners.

Being a great lover is about being in tune with your partner's needs, desires and fantasies. A woman will often use the same techniques on another women that she enjoys being used on herself. This does not mean she is a better lover, it just means she is in tune with herself. If you want to be a great lover then ask your partner what she or he enjoys. If your partner is verbally shy then pay attention to their body language. When a person is enjoying themselves, it is usually quiet obvious.

Being a woman and being bisexual does not necessarily make me a better lover and it does not mean I dislike men . I have had many enjoyable sexual encounters with both. And although I enjoy women, I absolutely respect men. For me, being bisexual just means I get to enjoy the best of both worlds. Is that greedy or just wicked of me?.......

STDs AND THE LIFESTYLE

One common question we are often asked is, “What do you do about STDs?” While we certainly would never attempt to dismiss the risk of such diseases, honestly we can say that during our years in the lifestyle, we have never met anyone who has contracted an STD via an encounter with other couples in the lifestyle. We don’t know why exactly that is, but we suspect that it’s due to the selectiveness of the people involved. Ninety-nine percent of the people in the lifestyle are involved with a long-time partner and do not engage in sex outside their relationship or the Lifestyle. This cuts down the risk quite a lot, but there are other factors as well:

1. Most swingers are reasonably affluent with access to good health care.

2. Most swingers take pride in their health and their bodies and avoid high-risk behaviors such as drug use or prostitution (the two major behaviors associated with transfer of STDs and other diseases).

3. All the swingers require the use of condoms.

4. Because most swingers are heterosexually oriented (though many of the women are bi, the vast majority of the men are straight), this puts them into low risk categories for most forms of STDs.

The bottom line is, we don’t play with people that don’t have the same values and interests as we do. And we’re very selective about whom we meet, and even more selective about the people with whom we go further. We also have regular checkups and stay as healthy as we can.

The best ways to minimize risk in the Lifestyle are to:

1. Be selective about your potential partners. Have a discussion with the couple or person of interest about disease and previous sexual behavior to determine the level of risk involved. Be frank and offer your experience as well as asking about theirs. If anything doesn’t seem right, discuss it in more detail—if you’re still uncomfortable, move on. It’s not worth the risk.

2. Use condoms and avoid anal sex with other partners.

3. Get regular checkups that include checks for STDs. If you should find you have a problem, be responsible and immediately inform your previous partners.

4. Avoid situations that involve excessive alcohol. While a drink or two can help you socialize and reduce your inhibitions, too much to drink can compromise your judgment. Besides, too much alcohol can spoil the fun. No one likes to make love to a drunk.

5. As with above, avoid drugs (especially avoid illegal drugs and anyone who uses them).

6. If you are going to get involved in a group activity, make sure you know everyone who will be involved and ensure you are comfortable with their backgrounds. Don’t allow yourself to be put in a situation where someone you don’t know joins in while you’re not looking.

7. Limit your activities to a small circle of friends. Be sure they are as selective as you are. Those swingers whose only goal in life are to get as many fucks on their bed as possible are those that run the greatest risk and those that pose the greatest risk to the rest of us.

ABOUT ME.....

One of the reasons my husband, Jay, and I decided to put up a web blog instead of putting a personal ad in a swinger's magazine was the ability to tell people more about ourselves and our life together. We hope that by letting people know more about us, we will actually meet people with whom we share common interests and compatible philosophies. Since we are looking primarily for friendship, with the bonus we hope, of sexual fun, publishing a web blog seemed the best way to go. And it's far easier than trying to cram your philosophy of life and friendship into a forty word ad in SWINGERCAST.

Jay and I have been happily married for over 5 years, but we're both always looking for new friends and new adventures. I'm bi-sexual and enjoy being with women very much. I'm not aggressively bi, however, and I prefer that such situations develop naturally (as they usually do) through soft touching, kisses and caresses. Since we've been swinging for a number of years now, I'm not shy or hesitant about meeting new people and engaging in new sexual adventures, but I do believe friendship and mutual attraction are a must for such situations. If there isn't a basis of friendship on which to develop a relationship, I find it difficult to believe that sexual adventures would be much fun.

I'm an exhibitionist and I enjoy dressing up in revealing and sexy clothing and going out in public. I also enjoy posing for Jay and he must have thousands of photos of me in almost every state of dress and undress, and not a few sexual activities. I'm not promiscuous, however, and I'm selective about my sexual partners. I enjoy threesomes (in both combinations) and foursomes with couples. Sometimes I find that when the number of people goes much beyond four I get too distracted to enjoy myself fully. I do try, however!

I don't smoke and I'm only a social drinker. Of course, drugs are totally out of the question. I enjoy all kinds of music but im a die hard fan of reggae music, yes, bob marley rules. My favourite drink is Bru Coffee. I like to dance, play darts and cards, and I love intelligent conversation with open-minded people. Arrogance and rudeness turn me off. I prefer polite, considerate people who enjoy life and fun.

I don't meet with single guys or even with couples without my husband, so please don't ask for that. Although I might consider meeting a female for coffee or drinks, we would have to talk about it first, and it would be with the clear understanding that it would be just us girls. I don't like to play sexual mind games with people and I'm really not into cyber or phone sex. I prefer the real thing. Couples that are simply interested in talking about swinging without any intent of meeting or going further than talk should contact others like yourselves. While talking about sexual adventures can be quite stimulating to your sex life, nothing actually compares to the real thing.